This is a difficult topic and I'm sorry you are in a situation that has led you to this page! You’re whole reality is shattered—you just learned that your partner had an affair. It hurts!
You may be questioning your partner’s feelings for you, the loving life you have built may feel worthless, and the one person who is supposed to make you feel safe and secure has hurt you the most. You may be feeling disrespected and devalued. You may feel like you don’t really know who the person is sleeping next to you (or on the couch at this point).
You are about to go through a roller coaster of emotions. The many clients I have worked with around this issue have reported these common feelings when they first learned about infidelity in their relationship:
Numb (sometimes our minds & bodies protect us from feeling too overwhelmed)
People react in many ways to learning about their partner’s infidelity—some immediately want a divorce/break-up, others cling to their partner worrying their relationship is over. Either way, take a deep breath and don’t make any major decisions about your relationship just yet.
Hang in there! Contact me for immediate support.